Religion: Why Are We Losing?

kuuleme DAV photoI recently made a posting on my Facebook Page after being on a feed with Pastors and other various “religious” people. The feed I participated in for a moment really disturbed me, as it ended up getting very ugly for a religious conversation. Here is the posting I made on my page afterwards:

“Note To Self (My 1 a.m. can’t sleep because I’m GRUMPY thought):
“Stay off of Religious Folks and Pastor’s Facebook Pages. Nothing good comes from being on them, as they all seem to be in competition with each other to prove who is more “religious”, who knows the word of God and can interpret it better, who’s house is cleaner, and who is better than who; which then turns into everyone looking like hypocritical, snobbish, know-it-all, rude, uneducated, unfriendly, asshats who only care about making others feel bad in order to promote their own self-worth and self-esteem.”
SHEESH! No wonder I stopped going to church and just study the Bible at home on my own! Did it ever occur to any of these people that:
This is why we have so many different denominations of Christianity, different Religions, and various Cults popping up everywhere??? (Because people think they know the Bible better and they can have a bigger better church) Or that maybe it’s why many people have stopped going to church at all and morals are being lost in this country? Or why some folks don’t believe in God at all?? (Because man keeps screwing the Bible up with their own agendas and attitudes)
MYLANTA!!! People have got to get it together and stop being so RUDE with their HOLIER THAN THOU attitudes!!! That is not the way to draw others to following God’s word or the Bible!

I have always been a very Spiritual person with Christian views and ideology, as I was raised in and grew up in the Church; BUT when “man” puts their own spin, attitude, and agenda on Religion it makes it very hard to want to attend a Church and be apart of a Congregation these days. People have become very snobbish, rude, and condescending when it comes to Religion! Often Hardcore Religious people come off as being very judgemental, holier than thou, and very arrogant when dealing with others. I think everyone is intelligent enough to know that no one is perfect but when you portray yourself to be by putting others down solely based on your personal religious views wouldn’t that be a bit hypocritical and against the teachings of the religion you claim to know and follow?

I was raised and grew up in the church thus, I have always been a very spiritual person with strong Christian ideology. Therefore when man puts their own attitude, interpretation and agenda on religion it makes it very hard to want to attend a church and be a part of a congregation these days. There is an attitude among some of the people who attend church regularly and feel “holier than thou”. They come across as being very snobbish, rude and condescending when discussing religion! These “self-sanctimonious” persons are very judgemental, and arrogant in dealings with others. I believe that everyone is intelligent enough to know that not one is perfect and especially when if you call yourself a Christian. So when you portray yourself to be ‘perfect’ by attitude and putting others down based solely upon your personal religious viewpoint, isn’t that a bit hypocritical and blasphemous in regards to the teachings of the Holy Bible that they claim to know and follow so much more diligently and expertly than anyone else?

Because social media is so one-dimensional, meaning it’s difficult at times to detect a person’s tone and infliction on a statement, people at times type statements that can be misinterpreted very easily through a computer screen. Television shows such as Preachers of LA glamorizes being a pastor in ways that are not typical of what is regarded as “Christian-like” behavior. Shows like that are also contributing to the promotion of mediocrity in our society as well as the downfall of religion, it doesn’t help the religious sector when priests, pastors and other ecclesiastic figures are being caught having adulterous relationships, out-of-wedlock children, molestation, theft from the church, and other various crimes that are not Christian behaviour.

It also doesn’t help any when you can walk into a Church and see the income levels of a Congregation from the front to the back! That doesn’t make one feel very welcomed either! Some folks know what I’m talking about here! I mean big hats and fancy designer clothes in the front, Target and Walmart attire towards the middle, and Thrift Store and Hand-Me-Downs in the back! Another example would be when the Pastor has more gold in his mouth, on his fingers and around his neck, than the cross and drive a Lexus, Rolls Royce, Mercedes, or other expensive vehicle all paid for via their congregation and tides.

Religion was NOT established for people to utilize as a tool to promote themselves and their ego’s, make themselves feel better by stepping on others, or get rich! If you are a religious person you know that the purpose of the 10 Commandments was to serve as a moral guide for living, build good relationships with each other based on love and mutual respect, and to love, honor and obey God. So how exactly does a Christian fighting another Christian play into to the Bible and it’s teachings? How does acting more superior and proving who is more religious accomplish any of the Lords lessons? Shouldn’t you be making sure your own house is perfectly clean before you go and try to clean someone else’s?

The Pew Research Center has done research on religion and the trends going on with people in the United States as far as being religious goes in their lives called the Religion & Public Life Project. Their studies show a rise in the American public that doesn’t identify with any particular religion and the various reasons why people choose not to affiliate with a church . Gallop did their own poll and found that less than 20% of Americans attend church regularly. And also ran a story called 7 Startling Facts: An Up Close Look at Church Attendance in America echoing some of the same results.

If you have the inclination to actually ask people yourselves, you will find out that the answers as to why they don’t are similar. Some will say they just don’t have time, some will say they just don’t believe in organized religion, some will say they don’t have the money, and others will say that they don’t believe in religion or God at all. In the end when you break it all down you will find the underlying cause though. They feel uncomfortable, they don’t want to be judged, and they don’t feel like they are worthy enough to be there due to the bad attitudes put on full display by church members and comments that people claiming to be Christian make.
So I ask you:
Don’t you think we should put a better face on the Christian Religion in our country if we are to gain any ground here? I do believe the old saying ‘You catch more flies with honey than vinegar’ would apply here! I mean really? Would Jesus have a front pew seat, big hat, a fancy car, gold accessories, a mansion, and a bad  “push more people away” attitude?


‘You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar’
‘You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar’

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21 thoughts on “Religion: Why Are We Losing?

  1. I can so very deeply relate to the message emanating throughout this entire article. Well said. Churches are no more than a collection of men and women who may, or far more likely may not, truly be of God. And they have indeed inflicted great harm through their own less than Christian agendas, widely scattering Jesus’ entire flock, and rendering them all vulnerable as easy prey for the enemy. I feel that a great majority of true Christians came to Him as I did, on a personal level far outside the walls of any church. But this scattered flock will once again be united, entirely free of doctrine, and from across the entire spectrum of our ten million splintered denominations, and once we have all come together in His Holy Name, and for His Glory, He will once again regain the praise and worship of many lost souls, who have all been turned away at the hand of Man, rather than by their Savior. And woe be unto those shepherds who cared only for themselves and their own gain, while caring not for the flock to which they’d been entrusted. Their day of reckoning will come.

  2. Nice article, and i can relate to some of the stuff you were saying.
    But, a couple things we must remember- There is no such thing as a perfect church,
    (this side of Heaven, anyway) Because they are all run by humans, and we all are sinners.
    If you find a “perfect church, don’t join, because you will wreck it! (being human)
    It is better to go to church with a few hypocrites than to hang out in the world full of hypocrites!
    We are commanded to go to Church, to worship & fellowship with other Christians, because there is someone there that needs your help, as well as there is someone there that can help you!
    That is why fellowship with the Body is so important- we can all help each other with some area that you may have struggled with and gotten through it, and can help someone else overcome. And there is someone there that has been through what you are struggling with, and can help you overcome.
    Fellowship is like burning coals in a BBQ grill…Together, they keep each other burning brightly for Jesus.
    Put a single coal on the side y itself, and it goes out!
    There is no such thing as a “Lone Ranger Christian” We all need each other to stay on track for Jesus!

    But, we do need to find a good, Bible Believing, Bible Teaching church. One that does NOT compromise the faith & doctrine for any reason, one that still teaches that sin is sin, and we MUST all repent of our sins!
    With a Pastor that teaches the whole Bible, from Genesis to Revelation, leaving nothing out because it might be harsh & offend someone.Especially the stuff that is not P.C. to teach in today’s culture – like homosexuality, sexual immorality, ANY kind of sex outside the bonds of Male & Female Marriage, and all the other things that society thinks is not a problem anymore, because it IS a problem to God!

    It is better to do what is right in the eyes of God, and be judged by the world than do what is right in the eyes of the world, and be judged by God!

    We are losing the world now, because the Church has failed to do what they are supposed to for the past 75 years…To carry out The Great Commission!
    The Church, in general is so very Biblically Illiterate now, that we need to get back in God’s Word, and Teach it, and then LIVE IT! I will be the first to admit that I fall short on that one, But, as long as we are alive,we have a second chance to do God’s Will-and follow the Great Commission.(Matthew 28:18-20)
    To go to all the ends of the Earth and Make disciples of all nations, teaching them to follow Jesus!
    Also, it seems like there is no Fear of God anymore! (Reverence Him and His Holiness) We think God is just all love and no judgement, and that is so wrong!
    I fear God, and pray that I have been Obedient to His Word & His Commandments. Not to “earn” my salvation, because I can Never earn or deserve His Salvation, but to prove my Faith with my works.
    I am better than NONE! Just a sinner saved by Grace through Faith. All Glory & Honor to Jesus!

    Thanks & Keep on Praising Jesus, SailorDale

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  6. I have had involvement of one kind or another with certain Christian institutions/ individuals over the past 3-4 years or so and my alcohol consumption went up when dealing with these people as they were so stressful to be around. I have no problem with Jesus at all but Christianity as prescribed by Paul has its own special brand of misery. I don’t know why it makes people feel so important to be involved in such a racket. Perhaps because some of them can’t do anything else!

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  8. George Müller faced the same thing in his day. His father was quite religious but in a way that the young Müller was stifled by. Fortunately he found a group of Christians who saw the scriptures as a challenging guide for their own lives (it’s harder to be a hypocrite when you honestly weigh YOURSELF first). He went on to live Jesus’ commands, caring for hundreds of orphaned children in Bristol, England. The world needs to see more of this kind of Christianity.

  9. Few seek after the Truth. It’s the truth as I see it, mostly. None questions what they have been lead to believe. Not having grown up in church I had no ideas about Christianity. None that were good anyway. It wasn’t until I meet Jesus at age 25 (August 14th, 1977) and started reading the Bible did I come to understand that Christianity at it’s core was, is and will always be about a relationship with Christ.

    The hardest people to hold a conversation with are church folk. Everyone parses ever word you say looking for an opportunity to tell you what you said was wrong not according to the Truth, Christ Jesus but according to the illusion of their particular doctrine as it relates to their domination.

    I was saved in a friends basement one Sunday evening. No music, not choir, no preacher giving and alter call. Just him, me and the Truth Christ Jesus laid out plain and I chose to follow Jesus. It was kind of like the movie The Matrix, the Red pill (follow Jesus) or the Blue pill (keep doing what you are doing). It wasn’t much of a choice and not a hard one to make. To say the least: it has been a very interesting journey taking me places, mostly within my self that I had no idea even existed. Jesus didn’t change the world for me. He changed how I viewed and interacted with it.

    Following Jesus isn’t for weak hearts and unmade minds. Salvation is free and a very easy choice to make. Discipleship is very, very expensive and takes you places you more like as not would go on your own. It requires a new commitment to follow each and everyday, eyes on the prize, Christ Jesus who is enough in and of Himself.

    Resistance is futile:
    Php 2:10 That at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of things in heaven, and things in earth, and things under the earth;
    Php 2:11 And that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.

  10. Damn, Kuuleme, you must be walking in my shoes! You expressed exactly why I don’t feel comfortable in church and long ago sought God in the wilderness on the back of my horse, on foot and even taking a drive. As a child of roughly 10 years young, my cousin told my brother, sister and me we were going to hell because we were members of the Methodist Church, instead of The Church of Christ. Gosh, I guess my parents weren’t given this information and chose the wrong denomination! I’ve experienced quite a few of that type of righteous proclamations, declaring I or others didn’t believe the RIGHT dogma and were destined for a place other than where THEY were sured they’d be. I found it offense and repulsive back then and know nothing’s changed because some adults must claim moral superiority in order to make themselves feel good. I have a deep belief in God but will never go to church to worship him….when a horse and nature bring me much closer to Him.

  11. Agreed…
    I always say “Take it out of the Pew”
    Look in the mirror and see how you treat others around you.
    “Live the Word” means more than
    “Speak the Word”
    I just finished helping an older, disabled lady renovate her damaged home.
    She thanked me with tears in her eyes and that meant everything!!!
    Awesome Day to be a Christian!!!
    Oviedo, Florida

  12. Kuuleme,
    I couldn’t agree with you more. I grew up catholic, as a child we went to church weekly and attended CCD, my teenage years we went when we could and as an adult I turned into a “Creaster” you know, attending on Christmas and Easter. What I noticed as a child, everybody smiles in church but in the parking lot its every man for themselves getting out. I have faith. I have faith in GOD, the son of god, the trinity and the bible. What I don’t have faith in is the religious institution. Catholic, Lutheran, Methodist, Baptist, the Christian institutions are all the same to me. I have had some abnormal experiences with the institution and understand how unique my experiences are and that one bad apple doesn’t spoil the basket. I’m going to throw them out here, not to bash the church but to hopefully laugh a little.

    I seen the catholic church in action with two different family members, both cousins, one does very well and the other is a hard working middle class. My older cousin was divorced, wanted to remarry in the catholic church and could not until he made a sizeable donation along with an annulment, which he did. My younger cousin lives down state, it is her first marriage to a divorced catholic however her new husband could not afford an annulment or donation and would not be allowed to marry in the Catholic church, so they converted to Lutheran.

    My grandmother passes away, her service is held at the family church, the priest asks for a donation to place a memorial in the church garden for my grandmother. Of course all of the children and grand children provide a sizeable donation to the priest. A month later I see him on the news being arrested for buying the products to manufacturer and distribute GHB with the kids he was counseling.

    Then during my 19 year career as a police officer, my department has arrested several priests for……

    So my wife and I decide to marry non denominational, were both baptized Catholics. We find a reverend, we have a small service in a small chapel. I found out months later the man who was advising me on marriage, trust, faithfulness ran out on his wife with another woman.

    There is a lot of hypocrisy in Christianity just as there is in any other organized religion. I don’t put my faith in man I put my faith in GOD. However, if you find a clergyman, who rides a Harley or drives a hot rod, is trustworthy, speaks the truth and the religious institution look down upon him… give me his number because I will give him a chance.

    So to answer your question, yes I believe we need to put on a better face on Christianity.


  13. I liked the Blog. You may be a over-stating your judgement of those who are judging others. Be careful there, I understand your frustration but from where I’m sitting, you should just walk away.

    • Wow, looks like you entered someone’s comfort zone.

      If you only knew how you hit the nail on the head with this article. I grew up on a small farm, just outside small town of about 3,000. My dad worked his behind off and kept food on the table, a roof over our heads
      and even though we didn’t everything we wanted. We had what we needed.

      As I grew up we attended First Baptist Church and I ended up going to the Christian School the church had founded after I graduated my eighth grade year. I know my parents both sacrificed to pay tuition for my sister and I.

      Anyhow, as I turned 16 I got my drivers license and my dad helped me get my first real job at a convenient store. I worked a couple hours each day after school to put gas in my truck and take my girlfriend (at the time) out to dinner and a movie or sometimes we’d just go cruise town. I was average teenager never in trouble, and I never messed with drugs or alcohol.

      I guess I would have been one of the poorer kids in the school and had a few friends that didn’t really fit in the click. Not only did we not fit in with the kids that done pretty much the same things we did, but the teachers as well.

      Once I started the job, I soon found out that I shouldn’t be working there because they sold beer. Although it was ok for those that criticized my job, to go there to get an ice cream or sodi pop after church and hang out at the tables inside the front of the store.

      I’m not too sure why, but it got to the point to where it seemed like they tried to find anything they could to give me detention and then turned to paddlings at least 3 times per week. The principal would always give me his lecture and tell me I just needed to break down and cry. Then he’d pick my feet up off the floor trying to make me cry with what they called swats. I’m not exaggerating here. He always tried to accuse me of doing drugs and drinking which I wasn’t. My life had turned into a living hell…

      With 9 days left before my Senior graduation, one of my friends truck broke down on the way to school.
      We got his truck going, we were going to be late so of course we’re already looking at detention. Low and behold when we walk into the hallway the principal met us before we could enter the classroom and took us to the office. The Pastor of the church gave us a lecture, telling me that I was a waste of their time and my parents money. Then they separated us, they sat me in a chair in a closet closed the door and told me they would be back to get me after they were done with my friend.

      They ended up kicking my friend out of school that day, telling him that he would get his diploma when he paid off his tuition and his younger sisters as well. He wasn’t allowed into the graduation or even to attend.
      When they come and got me from the closet, they informed me that I was on thin ice and better watch my step or I was next. I can only assume the reason they let me stay was because my parents were paying my tuition.

      So if you’re with me this far, I’ve told this story to give you an idea of what I went through and lead into what could have been the short version.

      About 6 to 8 months after my graduation, the church ended up splitting up. The pastor was caught molesting several ladies that worked around the church. In the meeting with the deacons he tried to make a deal to leave quietly with a lump sum. If my memory serves me right I think he asked for $10,000. The church ended up making him come forward tell what had happened and the church would decided whether he stayed or not. When he left half the church left with him. The principal of the school ended up leaving and starting his own church with a school. In the contract they made sure to include that any child age 16 was required to find a job. They could not work anywhere that was open on Sunday or that sold alcohol. Then they would be required to bring their checks to the school where they would cash the check and take out their tithes. I found this out from a younger kid that I previously went to school with when his mother tried to send him there. She decided otherwise when she read the contract.

      I know there’s probably a lot more here than you wanted to read, and I could go on and on about the stuff I’ve seen and witnessed first hand with many others. I know we’re all human and we make mistakes and we’ll all be judged by God himself one day and I agree 100% with your article. The attitudes of the majority of church people drive others away especially when you have a difference in your convictions or beliefs. People see right through the hypocrisy. I’d much rather see someone tell another I’ll pray for you, instead of you’re going to hell because they aren’t in church or doing something they don’t agree with.

      I’m 46 years old now, and probably not the best example as a Christian. But it sickens me to see what’s going on in our world today. Our country is headed down the pooper and most church people want to sit and complain. Yet most won’t take the time to even look at what’s really going on and are simply hoping that Christ returns so they don’t have to deal with anything.

      I have subscribed and look forward to reading more of your articles.
      Keep that pretty chin up and God Bless…

  14. Nice, but everyone has to answer to God for his or her own self. I am Catholic and I am very happy with my faith. I would never try to convert anyone to the Catholic faith unless they asked for help. If someone feels happier in another faith, so be it.

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